GET OVER IT.

Have you been having feelings of resentment recently? Most of us have and don’t even realize it. I know that I have found myself thinking unconsciously aloud, "How hard is it to use your turn signal?!" or, “So, you mean to tell me that this person was unable to find the trash can?" or "Really? This is how we're parking now?”

 

It is almost automatic or intuitive to respond this way in order to justify being upset over something that may be seriously insignificant. The dangerous part about that, though, is that this thought process can be the precursor for feelings of resentment.

 

A couple of tricks that I love to use to prevent resentment are as follows: 

 

1)    The 2-minute limit

Give yourself a 2-minute period/time-limit to be bothered about whatever just happened. Guess what the next step is...GET OVER IT!

 

Yes, this is easier said than done. Trust me, I do understand; however, I promise that you will really enjoy the self-control that you notice you had once your time to throw your fit is up!

 

2)    Do the opposite

What would you normally do in the situation at hand? Whatever it is, try the opposite this time.

Instead of, "I can't believe that they just cut me off," try "They must have an emergency. I hope that that car gets to where they need to be safe."

 

Again, easier said than done, but I guarantee that you will like the opposite results from your usual responses. You will also begin to see your thinking patterns and focus change to help you stress less.

 

This all comes right back to what we are usually discussing... getting uncomfortable. Make some time in your schedule this week to do exactly that. Get uncomfortable. Give yourself no more than 2 minutes to be upset and then, do the opposite of what you’d normally do.

 

Be Well,

Coach Chris

 

"Things work out best for those who make the best of how things work out." -John Wooden